The Art of the Sacred Ask

How to ask for support... from human beings.

Last week in our Mastermind Program, our theme was The Art of the Sacred Ask.

We gathered as a circle of soul-inspired entrepreneurs and visionary women, and what emerged in the conversation felt so important.

Many of the members are quite practiced at asking the Universe for support.

We pray. We set intentions. We journal. We create vision boards. We listen for signs, synchronicities, and intuitive nudges. We know how to open ourselves to the invisible field of support and guidance.

And yet, many are less adept at asking actual humans.

That’s where the risk can feel greater. A human being can say no. A human being can misunderstand us. A human being can disappoint us, judge us, ignore us, or not meet us in the way we hoped. Asking people can bring up tenderness, vulnerability, visibility, and sometimes the old fear of being too much or needing too much.

And yet, asking is one of the primary ways support takes shape. 

This week, I’ve been feeling into the energy of asking for help—and also the courage it takes to make the simple, honest asks that clear space, invite support, and deepen connection. It’s such a simple thing, and yet asking can bring up so much. Fear of hearing no. Fear of bothering someone. Fear of being seen in our desire. Fear of needing anything at all.

I feel grateful that I began building this muscle early. When I was twenty-three, I joined a girlfriend in her handcrafted gemstone jewelry business. We traveled to high-end craft shows and gift show expos, setting up displays, talking with customers, meeting store owners, and learning what it meant to present something we believed in.

That was where I learned to ask for the sale.

Not as manipulation. Not as much pressure. Not as trying to convince someone to want something they didn’t want. At its best, asking for the sale was an invitation. It was a moment of honest exchange: here is what we’ve created, here is why it matters, and here is how you can take it home or bring it to your community.

Later, I sold herbs from the rainforest, which built another layer of that same muscle. I learned to present ideas, articulate the value of something, educate people, seek collaborators, and invite others to grow sales, a business, and a community. Again and again, I saw that business grows through relationships, conversation, courage, and our willingness to ask.

This does not mean asking has become effortless for me. It still stretches me.

This past week, I noticed myself making a series of asks—some small, some big, some practical, and some tender.

I asked a friend to review my new website and share honest feedback. I asked a housecleaner to help us clean the house, which felt like such a luxury—and honestly, it felt amazing to receive that kind of support.

I asked an organization if they’d be interested in contracting for a custom course for their members. My heart was beating when I pushed “send.” I asked a mentor if she’d be willing to promote my next Business Course. That one felt a little edgy, too. And I asked my sister if everything was “alright” between us, because I sensed something and didn’t want to make assumptions or let distance grow in silence.

That one felt especially tender in my heart.

Big asks. Brave asks. Relational asks. Practical asks. And I can feel there are more to come.

I’m seeing, once again, that creation is not meant to happen in isolation. We are not here to hold every piece alone. Sometimes the next level of our vision requires us to become more available to support, collaboration, generosity, honesty, and the beautiful, humbling practice of letting others help us.

Many of us learned to be capable. To handle things. To anticipate needs. To not inconvenience anyone. To wait until we were completely clear, perfectly prepared, or absolutely certain before reaching out. But creation rarely unfolds that way. Creation often asks us to move while we are still tender, to speak while our voice is still trembling, to invite support before everything is polished and complete, to let others see the work in progress, and to let ourselves be held in the becoming.

It says, Here is what I am creating. Here is where I could use support. Here is what I am sensing. Here is what I am hoping for. Here is where I am willing to be vulnerable. Here is the door I am opening. Here is where I’m inviting a win-win.

And then we listen.

• Sometimes the ask opens a door immediately.

• Sometimes it begins a conversation.

• Sometimes it reveals who is aligned and who is not.

• Sometimes it brings a no that clarifies the next step.

• Sometimes it simply strengthens our capacity to advocate for our own life, our own work, our own relationships, and our own becoming.

And yes, sometimes the most powerful ask is still the quiet prayer whispered to the unseen: Please guide me. Please show me the next right step. Please help me receive. Please help me trust.

I personally have an Invisible Advisory Team, my unseen helpers! More on that another time.

I believe we are supported in more ways than we can see. But often, support needs an opening. A gesture. A willingness. A request. 

Momentum flows, energy moves when we dare to ask people for help.

So I’m curious…

What is one ask—big or small—that may be calling you this week?