Relationships have the power to shape us more than almost anything else in life. Love can open us. Challenge us. Heal us. And invite us into becoming more fully ourselves.
My husband, Gavin, and I love supporting individuals and couples to build loving relationships rooted in truth, emotional maturity, friendship, spiritual alignment, and genuine partnership.
For us, the key to a thriving, healing intimate relationship is learning to love our partner in extraordinary ways while remaining connected with ourselves in honesty and transparency.
The path of surrendering to true intimacy—a sacred container that embraces the power and beauty of a transformational relationship—allows couples to grow together consciously as they create a shared field where they both can truly thrive.
Meet my Beloved
Gavin and I met later in life after many years of personal growth, heartbreak, healing, searching, and becoming. What brought us together was shared values, emotional safety, and spiritual resonance. And of course, lasting chemistry.
In May of 2023, Gavin reached out to me on SpiritualSingles.com, and when I read his initial message, a very thoughtful overture of interest and invitation, I instantly felt a profound familiarity. After three weeks of long-distance phone and Zoom dating, he traveled from Seattle to Mt. Shasta so we could meet in person. What we planned as a long weekend became a twelve-day immersion and fast track to falling in love. Three and a half months later, we moved in together.
Today, we’re married and continuing to deepen our connection. Our relationship is a learning laboratory and richly informs the programs we offer. When we co-facilitate, we share stories, vulnerable experiences, and lessons continually being learned.
We teach what we practice, And we do our best to be fellow students immersed in discovering new levels about the fierce, tender path that is intimacy. Are lives are devoted to continually opening and learning with awareness, heart-centered communication, humility, compassion, and skill.
Gavin brings decades of experience as a licensed spiritual therapist, teacher, minister, and a passion for transformational couples counseling. I bring my background in professional development, leadership, somatic embodiment, and the healing arts.
Together, we create spaces that are warm, grounded, honest, experiential, and deeply human.
Our Philosophy & Orientation
Relationships, by their nature, serve to illuminate each partner's patterns, fears, wounds, gifts, needs, desires, communication styles, nervous systems, and capacity for intimacy.
Humans experience trauma and heartache through relationships—and we can heal our trauma through relationships.
True intimacy invites us into greater self-awareness and deeper levels of love. A healthy relationship is not about losing yourself in another person. And it is not about avoiding vulnerability in the name of independence. It is about each partner learning how to remain connected to themselves while sharing a meaningful, moment-to-moment connection with another person.
At the heart of our work is understanding that a thriving intimate relationship supports both partners in becoming continually more alive, authentic, loving, and aligned with their deeper nature.
Explore Our Relationship Offerings
Our programs and retreats are experiential, relational, practical, and deeply reflective.
We celebrate in knowing that the quality of our outer relationships begins with the depth and quality of our relationship to ourselves.
We work independently and together with both singles and couples.
Awakening Heart: Attracting True Love
An Online Three-Month Program for Women
Join this heart-centered journey for single women who are opening to love, dating, self-worth, emotional healing, feminine embodiment, and magic.
Awakening Heart supports women in attracting a partner through strengthening intuition and discernment, healing relationship patterns, and cultivating greater confidence and clarity.
Created especially for spiritual women who desire relationships rooted in emotional safety, genuine compatibility, and care.
The Real Us Online Workshop Series
This monthly online workshop with Gavin & Joy is for singles and couples exploring conscious relationship, communication, intimacy, emotional healing, and relational growth.
Sessions include teaching, guided practices, reflective exercises, and heartfelt conversations within a supportive community.
Themes vary monthly and focus on core elements of intimate relationships. Your first session is complimentary when you use the code SoulGift at checkout.
Mt. Shasta Singles Retreat
An annual retreat experience with Gavin & Joy for conscious singles who desire authentic connection, meaningful conversation, personal growth, and authentic dating skills.
Held in the beauty of Mt. Shasta, this retreat includes facilitated creative processes, nature excursions, communication tools, and healing.
This intentional experience is designed to support genuine connection, self-awareness, and heartfelt community. And, we have a lot of fun stepping into faith and overflow together.
The Real Us Couples Retreat & Program
An intimate and ongoing integration experience with Gavin & Joy - for couples who value growth, honesty, emotional depth, friendship, intimacy, and conscious partnership.
This immersive experience includes a multi-day retreat in Mt. Shasta, online integration workshops, private couples sessions, and growth tools, resources, and courses.
Designed for couples who have a sincere desire to open to new levels of mature, skillful intimacy and truly thrive together.
Relationship Coaching with Joy
Private coaching for individuals navigating dating, heartbreak, transitions, relationship patterns, emotional growth, self-trust, communication, or conscious partnership.
Transformational private coaching with Joy blends emotional insight, intuitive guidance, embodiment, nervous system awareness, and practical support.
Couples Therapy with Gavin
Therapeutic support for couples seeking professional counseling, communication support, conflict resolution, and emotional healing while opening to new levels of intimacy.
Gavin brings decades of experience as a therapist specializing in conscious relationships and emotional healing. Working with couples in a safe, ongoing sacred container is Gavin's passion and specialty.
Mt. Shasta Private Immersion Retreat
Whether you're seeking an in-depth personal healing journey or looking for a shared experience with a partner or family, all of our immersion retreats are custom-designed for individuals, couples, or small groups. This level of care and empowered collaboration allows for profound spiritual and energetic awakening.
→ Design Your Custom Mt. Shasta Retreat
An Invitation to Healing through Relationship
Whether you are single, dating, or deeply partnered, intimacy invites us into profound self-awareness and transformation.
We would be honored to walk beside you on that journey.
Schedule a Discovery Call.
I would be honored to meet you. Join me for a 30-minute conversation where you share your personal visions, challenges, and aspirations. This is a safe space, where I listen, reflect, and answer your questions about working together in a coaching or program container.
Start Your Journey with a Free ConsultationClient Success Stories
With love and appreciation and gratitude
"This is a time of big positive movement for me, especially in the arena of intimate relationship. I am so pleased and grateful that I found out about you in this fruitful period. I totally believe that every moment and every encounter is sacred and part of the divine dance. But some moments are more obviously wonderfully beneficial, and that is how I regard the value of what you share. You are a blessing to the world!"
- Kate Moody
Musician, teacher, and spiritual guide
www.musicalsanctuary.org
It's never too late to love
"In our process of living, we can lose touch with who we are. This special weekend with Gavin and Joy allowed me to access, appreciate, and grow my self-love and make decisions from my heart. My ability to love is much greater than I imagined, and I am grateful it's never too late to love. Everyone who attended contributed sincerely from their hearts. Everything happens for a reason, and I can now feel and develop the love I seek within myself and with a romantic partner."
– Anthony Moell
An excellent example for all.
"Your generosity of heart and practical application to “walking the walk” give you the credentials to show others how to do the same. AND you do it with so much love, openness and joy. I loved being in your community... You hold the feminine energy so beautifully while balancing the masculine within yourselves. An excellent example for all. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. With love & gratitude"
– Pam Herzer
Author, Transformational Mentor
Relationship Resources & Courses
Complementary Tools for Love
We witness every day that healthy relationship skills can be learned, practiced, and strengthened over time.
Explore our free articles, relationship tools, workbooks, and communication frameworks. We've carefully crafted these with couples and singles in mind and heart.
Self-Study Video Courses
Browse our growing collection of relationship-based video programs designed to support conscious love and thriving partnerships. Each self-study course guides you with live workshop recordings facilitated by Gavin & Joy, including handouts, journal prompts, and practices.
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