Two Years Ago Today: The Sparks of Love

Two years ago—on June 22, 2023—I met my true love in person for the first time.

We had already been dancing in modern long-distance courtship: tantalizing texts, vulnerable voice memos, meaningful Zooms, and even encounters in dreamtime.

For three weeks, Gavin and I had been orbiting each other in a field of frequency and heart connection. 

It was electric. 

We’d already addressed deal-breaker questions and shared the lowlights and highlights of our lives.

I was pretty sure I’d found my man, but I was also practicing discernment—not rushing, not projecting, not letting rose-colored glasses blur any red flags.

Then came the moment: we were finally going to meet in person. (Oh, my Goddess!)

I remember calling Gavin early into his 10-hour drive to see me. A little nervous, I said:

“When we meet, I have a request.”

He responded, “I love a woman who knows what she wants. What is it?”

I took a breath and said,

“When we meet, I want to take time to feel you. To look into your eyes, touch you, smell you, and get grounded in the physical experience of you. Can we hold off on kissing or anything sexual until I’m ready?”

Gavin—conscious, generous, and very smart—said, “Absolutely.”

He arrived that afternoon.

Sparks? Oh yes. 

Slightly awkward? Yep, that, too. 

Still, we honored the evolution of connection.

We took our time - a whole luscious hour. (LOL) 

I smelled him. For me, it is very important to like the smell of my lover.

I touched him and was touched; I sat on his lap and was held in his arms.

I felt his presence and strength.

I loved his height and his forehead.

He loved my graying hair and no make-up face.

And when the first kiss came, it was everything. 

It was intentional, intimate, and delicate.

Gavin originally planned to stay 3–5 days with me in Mt. Shasta.

He stayed 12 days.

In those magical 12 days, we entered something so natural: A committed relationship based on wholehearted honesty.

The alchemy of attraction enlivened our senses, and we sang, swam, cried, laughed, prayed, and played together.

And, yes, we kissed, plus some, too! 

The trust was built.

The connection was easy.

And now, here we are—two years later—married and still growing and glowing together.

In reflection, the whole process of attracting Gavin and our courtship was a series of asks, requests, and prayers. It was also a practice of receiving. 

I’m so glad I prayed to be in a conscious relationship.

I’m so glad I healed and grew from past heartaches.

I’m so glad I kept the faith in finding pure love while being true to myself.

Because now, I get to share that love—with him. 

I was afraid I’d lose myself in a relationship (like I had in the past). Not so! I keep finding more of myself.

If you’re single and seeking love, please hear this:

Keep your heart flame (and prayers for your beloved) alive. Love is possible.

Ask for what you want, each step of the way. 

With a glowing heart,

Joy

PS - You can learn more about our story on my YouTube channel in an intimate conversation with us!